you don't get what you want. you get what you're available for
you don't get what you want. you get what you're available for
expanding your capacity to receive & experience what you want = expanding your capacity to feel [love]
liminal spaces delight me.
because it’s within liminal spaces—when we have the benefit of spaciousness—that we are able to feel.
and the greatest joy of my life—and perhaps, dare I say, the greatest joy of life as a whole—is learning how to feel.
the simple act, the simple task, the simple way
of feeling love. being love. becoming love.
coming home.
when the journey is inherently delightful, you/I/we have already won.
I want us to recognise all the ways in which we are winning.
I want us to recognise all the ways in which we have already won.
and I believe that we must do so experientially. not theoretically. not by attempting to bulldoze our resistance into submission.
but by gently, lovingly tending to ourselves. licking our wounds. remembering (and noticing) how far we’ve come. remembering (and noticing) that the act & art of life itself— the fact that we are alive, the fact that we are conscious, the fact that we have the capacity to learn, grow, change & evolve— is a miracle.
life is a miracle.
and… just like you/me/us, life yearns for love.
when people are afraid of themselves, what happens?
they shut [themselves] down.
when people shut [themselves] down, what happens?
they are in conflict with a fundamental part of [their] nature, and cannot grow— let alone transform.
they do not allow themselves to be nurtured.
they do not allow themselves to be tended to.
they do not allow themselves to belong.
when people do not allow themselves to be nurtured, tended to, and belong, what happens?
they live a half-life. a disconnected life. a life that is not set up for them to thrive. a life that does not allow them to thrive. a life that prevents them from thriving. a life that hurts them. a life they do not—cannot—love.
because it is a life that is not right for them. all because they are afraid of themselves.
because they want more, and they need more, and they love more. and the life they are living denies this. the life they are living denies them. and being denied HURTS. meanwhile, you/I/we can only be squashed for so long before you crumple— or rebel.
and yet, at heart, all they want is for their life to be a reflection (and embodiment) of their capacity to love.
and all they want is all we want. all they want is all we are. all they want is to remember who they are. all we want is to step into & become who we really are.
all we want is [to] love.
you are me and I am you and they are we & us. and together, we are on a journey of becoming. together, we can & do become who we really are.
the heart knows what it wants.
the heart wants what it wants.
and the heart yearns to be listened to by us.
beyond that, the heart yearns to be cherished.
just like your heart yearns to be cherished. just like my heart yearns to be cherished. just like our hearts yearn to be cherished.
we are more similar than we are different. we are one. we are love.