"One of my biggest fears is leading someone on."
A 9-word confession.
The headline is self-explanatory.
And… the “why” is more interesting— & important— than the how.
There are many ways of leading someone on.
We do it when we knowingly hedge our bets.
We do it when we resist being honest about our feelings & availability for XYZ.
This isn’t just about intimate relationships. It’s about how we relate to one another as human beings, full stop. It’s about how we choose to walk each other home, and the ways in which we savour (or don’t savour!) each step.
An unspoken requirement for expansive love is being able to meet the other person where they are & recognise that they are different to (& no less important than) you.
I’ve heard the phrase “we all come with baggage” a lot, and it no longer resonates with me. I'm yet to meet a person who “comes with baggage” who doesn't also have unspoken (& therefore intrinsically unmet) needs.
Our “baggage” is not a sign that something is wrong with us.
It’s the manifestation of all of the things that we are not yet ready or available to see & feel.
There is deep wisdom in that, too.
We always know the best thing to do.
If you can't see me, I will not reveal myself to you. I will not put myself at risk; I will not cause myself unnecessary pain. This isn't me hiding; it's me being smart. It's me recognising & honouring where you're at, and attuning myself to our collective needs without judgement.
While I yearn for you to be different, I can’t truly love you.
A part of me doesn't want to; I am intrinsically resistant.While you yearn for me to be different, you can't love me, either.
And it's also one level deeper than that: I can’t feel your love.
I feel your judgement instead.
Love teaches me how to love.
Love teaches me how to open my heart.
Love teaches me how to soften.
Love teaches all of us... when we allow ourselves to feel & receive Her.
Are you ready to listen? I’m creating something new.
#same especially immature girls