"One of my biggest fears is leading someone on."

A 9-word confession.

The headline is self-explanatory.

And… the “why” is more interesting— & important— than the how.

There are many ways of leading someone on.

We do it when we knowingly hedge our bets.
We do it when we resist being honest about our feelings & availability for XYZ.

This isn’t just about intimate relationships. It’s about how we relate to one another as human beings, full stop. It’s about how we choose to walk each other home, and the ways in which we savour (or don’t savour!) each step.

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