On gaslighting.
What would it be like to no longer doubt your own reality at the hands of another?
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE BEING GASLIT
RACHEL CLIFTON (real power is embodied)⚡️@rachelclif
fundamental point #1: gaslighting requires a power differential
4:44 PM · Jan 28, 2023
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RACHEL CLIFTON (real power is embodied)⚡️@rachelclif
fundamental point #2: if there is no power differential in the moment, you are not being gaslit. you have BEEN gaslit
4:44 PM · Jan 28, 2023
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WHAT IS A POWER DIFFERENTIAL?
When you have the power to deprive me of things that are important to me (as it relates to my ability to survive and/or thrive).
Specifically:
1. If you have power over (or can significantly influence) my livelihood or safety.
2. If you have the power to take away things that are important to me (& you know that I know this about you).
RACHEL CLIFTON (real power is embodied)⚡️@rachelclif
if there’s no actual power differential, what’s going on?
if you’ve been taught to be insecure about owning your reality, feeling ashamed & diminished in the face of difference is the inevitable (intended) outcome
conclusion: everything is working as it should
4:44 PM · Jan 28, 2023
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PLOT TWIST: FEELING ASHAMED & DIMINISHED IN THE FACE OF DIFFERENCE IS ENTIRELY OPTIONAL.
RACHEL CLIFTON (real power is embodied)⚡️@rachelclif
the most liberating question I continually ask myself = “how am I creating this?”
speaking as someone who lived in shame for many years, it gets easier to look in the mirror & like what you see.
❤️
2:06 PM · Sep 10, 2022
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